Why You Need to Start Expressive Writing

A close up of a manicured hand holding a silver pen. There is a journal in their lap and they are about to start writing.

What do polygraph tests, physical illness, and your journal have in common? They can all be improved by expressive writing.

Let me explain.

Sometime in the 80ā€™s, a psychologist named James Pennebaker was researching how keeping secrets damages your health. When his test subjects shared a ā€œshamefulā€ truth on a lie detector test, they almost always relaxed. This was odd but the real crazy thing happened when people continued to keep up the honesty.

Lower blood pressure, less muscle pain, enhanced lung capacity, increased immunity ā€“ all of this was common in people who stopped keeping secrets. Even better, you didnā€™t need to confess to a person to get the benefits. Writing was enough.

And boom! A medical method for self-expression was born!

What is Expressive Writing?

According to April Johnson Stearns, Founder of the cancer recovery community Wildfire, expressive writing is anything that covers ā€œpersonal narratives with the goal of processing experiences.ā€ This could mean personal memoirs or essays ā€“ sure. But your journal is also an excellent outlet.

If you look closely though, not all journaling fits the definition. A gratitude journal doesnā€™t really process anything. Neither does a simple daily recap. So, what does this writing technique actually look like?

Even though this process is all about the messy vulnerability of the heart, the exact method is pretty structured. The exact method is below:

How to do Expressive Writing at Home

1.Ā Ā Ā Ā Ā  Pick a prompt. This takes the pressure off so youā€™re not scrambling to come up with something to write about mid-session

2.Ā Ā Ā Ā Ā  Get a physical journal and a pen ā€“ no erasing please

3.Ā Ā Ā Ā Ā  Set a timer for 10-20 minutes

4.Ā Ā Ā Ā Ā  Write without stopping until the timer runs out. You can write anything, even if you only want to write ā€œI hate this promptā€ or get completely off topic. Some people find it helpful to scribble if absolutely nothing comes to mind then jump back to writing the next thought.

5.Ā Ā Ā Ā Ā  Close your journal and go do another activity (this helps stop rumination). You can return to this entry later.

This graphic lists the 5 steps of expressive writing: pick a prompt, get a physical journal (ie: one you cant or won't erase in), set a time for 15-20 minutes, write without stopping, shift your focus after you're done.

Why is This Method?

Dr. Pennebakerā€™s experiments found that being fully vulnerable and honest in your writing has amazing physical health benefits. Who knew your journal could increase your lung capacity?Ā 

But why all of the rules? Shouldnā€™t it be enough to just write however your heart feels like in the moment? To be clear, there is no wrong way to journal. You should always follow what feels good when writing an entry.

That said, there are so many reasons why this exact method really works.

Time Limits = No Rumination

Rumination is a fancy word for a common problem. Itā€™s when you think about an issue over and over again without stopping. This is that anxiety that is super loud and annoying but never actually fixes anything. In other words, itā€™s obsession.

For people who struggle to stop journaling once they get started, rumination is the worst. You start out with a guided prompt and end up writing for 3 hours. Worst part is, nothing feels better.

It is easy to ruminate instead of process. Expressive writing gets around this by setting a firm time limit. That way you can fully explore your emotions without getting carried away. Of course, you can always return to a prompt later ā€“ just donā€™t try to do everything all at once.

A pink hourglass with white sand has just started to keep time. It is on a white table with a warm minimalist desk lamp in the back. It's a restful environment.

Judgement Free Zone

Another roadblock to true self-expression is trying to make *art*. AKA: perfectionism. This can look like holding back what you want to write because it ā€œdoesnā€™t sound goodā€ or stopping your journal session to correct a grammar error.

If you want to share a personal narrative to the masses and receive critical acclaim ā€“ write a memoir. Let your journal be a place to practice being easier on yourself.

Expressive writing has that self-compassion baked in. For instance, youā€™re allowed to write sloppy, use bad grammar, and get off topic. Thatā€™s actually the point!

Able to Explore (Less Structured)

In expressive writing, you could use the same prompt every day for a month and still come up with wildly different entries every time. This is because youā€™re almost forced to wander a bit.

Because your pen has to keep moving, your brain will make connections it hasnā€™t considered before. Sometimes these tangents will make no sense. Cā€™est la vie. But every once in a while that subconscious of yours will pop out.

Emotional processing is more than just venting. Itā€™s about finding root issues and physically letting go. Thereā€™s no better way to do that than let the mind roam.

A doodle on lined notebook paper. The calligraphy says "you have a beautiful mind". Around it, there are doodles of paisley, flowers, hearts, and pleasant designs. This all comes from a doodled head as if the words and images are the person's thoughts surrounding them.

Expressive Writing Journal Prompts

Any journal prompt can work for this method. However, some are more likely to build deeper insights than others. For example, it helps to phrase things in a first-person perspective. Here are some good ones:

Ā·Ā Ā Ā Ā Ā Ā Ā  I wish others would understand ā€¦.

Ā·Ā Ā Ā Ā Ā Ā Ā  I am hurt becauseā€¦

Ā·Ā Ā Ā Ā Ā Ā Ā  I donā€™t want to accept ā€¦.

Ā·Ā Ā Ā Ā Ā Ā Ā  I canā€™t stop thinking aboutā€¦

Ā·Ā Ā Ā Ā Ā Ā Ā  My main issue isā€¦

Ā·Ā Ā Ā Ā Ā Ā Ā  I donā€™t get whyā€¦.

Ā·Ā Ā Ā Ā Ā Ā Ā  In order to move forward, I needā€¦